Have you ever had a dream that came true and then, right afterwards, you felt depressed? You got the dream house and then, once you moved in, you looked around and felt... blah.
That's perfectly normal.
There is nothing wrong with you. You're not an ungrateful person. You didn't make the wrong choice.
You just forgot to pre-pave looking forward to something else.
I remember a story about a woman who was excited to see her grandkids for dinner. In a playful mood and wanting to delight them, she dressed up in halves. A different shoe on each foot. A different earring in each ear. She giggled as she got ready, delighting in how many creative ways she could make each side different, imagining her grandchildren's laughing response to the silliness of it.
And then she sat down to dinner and the children didn't care.
How would you respond in this situation? Would you be sad? Would it ruin your evening? In the past it would have deflated mine but now I know, after years of experience and positive thought research: much of the fun of life is in the anticipation.
Think about it.
How long do you look forward to that dream trip? If you leverage it, you can daydream and smile about an upcoming vacation for months before it happens. Even a year. Even longer.
Longer than the actual trip itself.
And then when you come home, how do you feel if you have nothing else to look forward to? Even if it's truly enjoying your daily coffee at the local shop, where the flowers bloom and the place feels so comfortable you can't help but smile inside.
That's why I'm already pre-paving my life after kids. I don't want to turn around one day, the house eerily quiet, to find out I'm lost. Oh I will grieve, I know this, but I don't want to feel rudderless while I do it.
The same goes for my later years.
It's hard sometimes to fight the general picture of old age. A nursing home. Wednesday night Bingo. Not being mobile. But I know I am a creative force. I know my current thoughts about my future life will steer me, little by little, choice by choice, right now, today, towards my future self.
I know that I can, if I put some focus on it, leverage some looking-forward-to-it guidance. I can give myself decades to enjoy the idea of my future self enjoying life at ALL AGES.
And my future self wants to DANCE.