I saw a Facebook post recently from a father who wished his elementary school daughter had a hobby. It's not an unusual wish for parents to have.
If they had a hobby they would be...
More happy? More extroverted? More skilled in something?
Is this true?
And what IS a hobby? Is our idea the same as our child's?
The dictionary definition of a hobby is an activity done regularly in one's leisure time for pleasure. This doesn't necessarily mean a sport, a group activity, or something that has a Facebook page. To a thinking child, an introverted child, or a child with high emotional intelligence, a hobby for them might be:
Instead of thinking our child does't have a hobby, try sitting down with them and asking them what they are interested in. What do they daydream about? What do they look forward to? What peaks their interest? What do they think they are good at?
If you take the traditional label off the idea, you may find your child has a unique hobby already.
Then your concerns might be:
I wish my child got more exercise.
I wish my child laughed more.
I wish my child had as many friends as they would like to have.
Which may or may not be answered by having a hobby at all.
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